If you had to rank yourself on how well your people skills are, what number would you give yourself and why? For this example let’s use a scale from I to 10. With 1 being the best and 10 not so good. How well are you at striking up a conversation with a stranger? Let’s say you were at the grocery store/supermarket and you were in line waiting to get checked out.
If I were in that situation these are some possible scenario’s.
1) I may not feel comfortable in starting a conversation, I just want to quietly wait in line.
2) I may be in a real upbeat mood and make a blanket comment about the weather, the store, something you’re wearing. Based on the vibe of the initial comment I may engage in a conversation.
3) Just smile and say hello and not say anything beyond that point.
So, on a scale from 1 to 10, I would give myself a 4. I give myself a 4 because I do understand how important it is to engage with people when possible. I always watch their facial expression, body language and the tone of their voice.
Everyone has people skills. It is just a matter of how well you want to use them. Developing people skills is an ongoing process. The following is an insight from a book about People Skills on how we learn and retain information:
How We Learn
98% Through Sight ~ 11% through Hearing ~ 3.5% Through Small ~ 1.5% Through Touch and 1 % through taste.
10% through what we read ~ 20% through what we hear ~ 30% of what we see ~ 50% of what we see and hear ~ 70% of what we say and talk 90% OF WHAT WE SAY AS WE DO A THING.
What is your prospective?